Today I heard that their really is such a thing as A Mother of the year. Wait what? Like we as women don’t already struggle with feelings of inadequacy and like we can never measure up, we now need an award to tell us so?
Here is the thing. I have spent the last 16 plus years trying to be ok with the way I mother. I am not perfect and I don’t always act the way I want to. But I am sure trying. Boy howdy am I trying. I’m learning to respect that others will mother much differently then me and that is totally awesome for them. Go be you women. Mother however you see fit for your children. But my children were sent to ME by God. He knows me and my weaknesses and He knows my children and their weaknesses and yet he still put us in the same family under the same roof. God ALSO knows my strengths. He knows that I want so badly to be a great mother, even if I often fall short of the expectations I set upon myself.
So with all of that in mind I decided to write myself a TRYING mother of the year award.
This is what it would look like.
This mother didn’t yell and scream at her children when they were fighting/brawling in the grocery store. She had the sense of mind to wait until they were in the privacy of her own car to heatedly explain why acting like little monsters is not ok.
Her house is clean when she has plenty of notice that someone is coming over. Well at least the main living areas. She has enough sense to shove everything else into rooms and closets where it will pile up until she almost goes certifiably crazy. But she doesn’t and we applaud her for mostly keeping her cool.
On Sunday’s she takes the time to actually put on makeup and do her hair. We are so impressed that she can do that 1 day out of 7. Finding that kind of time while raising 6 children is nearly impossible.
Her children know that she loves them even though she loses her cool and yells, is mean at times and doesn’t get up before them in the mornings.
She may resort to spanking when nothing else seems to work but she usually says sorry after she has calmed down and tries to talk it out.
This wonderful mother has taught her children the beauty of repentance by saying sorry, a lot.
She makes dinner for her family sometimes and her kitchen is often filled with dirty dishes to prove it. And sometimes her kids are lucky enough to get fast food and lots of conversations in the car while she drives all over town to take kids were they need to go.
Patience is a tool she is constantly TRYING to utilize. And effort is one of the highest values when it comes to a truly great mother.
She is one of the very best at making sure she gets a nap every day. And we all know a well rested mamma is… Well… Non existent so we celebrate her desire to try.
She even tries to be crafty and creative every once in awhile and her children thank her for it. How else would they get to watch so much tv?
She can instantly change her outward appearance from crazy screaming lady to calm and composed when someone rings her doorbell. How does she do it?
Let’s give an applause to a true mother. One who messes up over and over again but keeps on trying. One who lets her children see her cry simply because she is human and that gives them the right to feel and be human as well.
And here is to the Failing and Trying Again Mother of the Year.